Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Thursday, December 6, 2018

Winter Hair Care



Have you ever done strange things as a practice you did not understand why you were doing them? For example, do you pick your purse off the floor the moment you realize your mom always said, “Don‘t put your purse on the floor or else you’ll be broke?” Do you refuse to turn on the air conditioner in your car because someone told you doing so burns more gas? Or do you not wear white after labor day? These are a few things that come to my mind when I think about my family, friends and myself doing things out of habit or because someone told us. 

As it relates to habits, it would be more like routine or rote memory; doing things on auto pilot. The latter, would be, because momma (or an elder) said so. Rather putting your purse on the floor will have money flying out your purse faster than you can spend it or turning off the AC in your car will save on gas or if wearing white after labor day will cause a fashion faux pas; we all are a lil guilty of doing strange things we have no clue because Momma said so or because of something we heard or read. I can say the same about hair care. 

As a hairstylist, I hear strange things about hair care and hair styling. The winter is fast approaching. It is during this time of the year I continue to hear winter weather causes hair to fall out or contributes to damaged hair. 

Most wives tales are turned into beliefs after years or generations of saying them. For many wives tales are not only said, but they are also done. As a hair stylist we hear and see of many wives tales. Winter season is approaching, so are the wives tale about winter and hair. While, I have no idea how they got started, I am interested in putting an end to three popular wives tale. I will identify three wives tales, their culprits and conclude with three solutions. Perhaps these three winter wives tale will be in their last season!

Winter is here. These are the three wives tales I hear the most: winter causes hair to fall out, become dry and compromise hairstyles.

Winter can't make hair fall out, but lifestyle changes can. Cold weather does affect hair, but not drinking enough water will parch hair faster than mercury moving on a thermometer. As for hairstyles not lasting, provided the elements does not physically wet the hair, not combing hair to recreate the look is more responsible than the weather, a hat  scarf or wool coat.

The first solution for a less active lifestyle is to exercise. Exercising promotes blood flow. Blood flow carries vital nutrients to hair; thus making it strong and healthy. During winter months, it is not uncommon to become more sedentary. It is cold outside. People are more apt to simply go home and snuggle with someone or under the blankets after a long day. The decrease in physical activity can influence performance and appearance of hair. 

The solution for dry hair during the winter month is w
ater intake. Drinking plenty of water is crucial to healthy hair. During winter months, warm and tasty cocoas, coffees, teas and fine spirits are the choice of many when it's cold outside and holiday parties are everywhere. An increase in beverages with decrease in consumption of water is common. The lack of drinking plenty of water contributes to hair feeling dry, looking dry, scaly scalps; thus making hair more susceptible to breakage. 

Cold weather, snow and slushy grounds are enough to make the average bear say, "Bah humbug," to caring for hair. The solution to saving a hair style during the winter months is to comb it. Prior to going out into the elements, cover your entire head of hair. Once snow, rain, sleet or slush hit it; the style is over. Second, upon taking your hats, scarves and coats off, comb your hair thoroughly. Fluff, shake and go or running your fingers through your hair are sure to promote dryness. Materials rob hair and scalp of oil. Therefore combing immediately after removing hats, scarves and coats will quickly restore your hair's natural luster. Wear hairstyles that are sleek, simpler or braided. Sleek and braided hairstyles are low maintenance. They also look stylish between work and social functions. 

A decrease in physical activity, water intake and grooming are the culprits to dull, dry hair and scalp during the winter months. When it is cold outside, do go inside. Just remember to keep moving, drink water, comb your hair frequently to prevent hair damage during the winter season. 

Winter is here. As it arrives, sunshine leaves. The nothing to do blues will make you want to snuggle, sleep in and not want to get up and work out. They will entice you to consume one more hot cocoa, one more shot and of course one more hour on the sleep. 

Before you hit the snooze button, take one more drink and run your fingers through your hair, remind yourself to care for your hair. Just because it's cold outside, your hair can still look and feel nice! 

To learn more about hair care, visit www.lwrightbooks.com to order my new book, What They Don't Tell You at the Hair Salon.




Monday, May 15, 2017

Momma Said...

The interesting thing about being a hairstylist is the number of questions I get asked on a daily basis about how I chose cosmetology as a profession. The other questions I get asked a lot, is how did I learn to do hair and who influenced me? 

Choosing cosmetology as a profession was influenced by a career in social work. How did I learn to do hair? My sister made sure I learned how to do hair by refusing to ever to do my hair again! Yes, that is funny to me too.Why did my sister stopped stopped doing my hair? My sister always did my hair. I never did my hair. One day when I was 17 years old, I asked my sister to do my hair as we were getting ready for school. She replied, "No. If you think that I am going to do your hair for the rest of your life, you are mistaken!" I was verklempt. I actually clutched my imaginary pearls. Whatever was I to do? Burn my hair out. My sister looked at me, shook her head and walked out the bathroom laughing! That day began the long burning grind of learning how to do my own hair. Bah humbug was my sentiment.

Who influenced me? My mama! The 70's R&B group, The Intruders sang it best, "I'll always love my mama. She's my favorite girl. I'll always love my mama she brought me in this world."

My mother was a practical mother. Considering May is the month we honor mothers, I thought this post in my blog would be befittingly appropriate. You see my mother was of the mindset of no excuses. She had no filter on doing what needed to be done. She believed, do what needs to be done, and do it with passion. Her favorite saying was, "If you're going to do something. Do it right or got dammit don't do it at all." She was very serious about putting your best foot forward. She felt that foot should stick out in style and that you should smile as you hold your head high. No Debbie Downers in our home. As the official inventor of reality therapy, my mother proudly takes credit for promoting and trailblazing what it means to live life on the terms you create. She would say, "Ladosha, don't write no check yo behind can't cash. Everyone knows the value of phony people with their phony ways." So be a woman of your words and be sure you look the part. Yes, that mother of mine is what I would call a pistol. I do wish physically she was here. But, that is okay. Her energy is eternal and I feel it daily.

So, in the spirit of my mother's bold statement on reality and the consequences that go with those choices we make in reality, I write this blog in her honor on the things she told me about hair and caring for it. Enjoy.

Drum roll, please...

1. The image is everything. Keep your hair combed and don't share your comb. 
2. If your hair is dirty, you know what else is dirty? Keep your hair clean. 
3. Wearing your hair natural does not translate into unkempt hair.
4. Your hair is a unique fabric, the cut compliments the fabric.
5. Stop putting all that crap in your hair. 
6. You have hair like your father. Keep it combed!
7. In our family, we don't answer the door with uncombed hair. Honor our ways.
8. Your hair should not compete with your clothes, shoes and nails. These things must flow.
9. It is not about how much hair you have, it is about caring for the hair that you have.
10. Your hair is your crown and glory.

Can you dig it? Those are the things I remember most from my mother about hair. Those are her opinions. Many of them influence how I do hair, whose hair I do hair and why. Many of them also explain why I do hair with love and compassion. Her mother wit, is what fuels my desire to teach everyone how to do their own hair. I agree, that people should put their best foot forward in their own unique style.

As a cosmetologist, I do not want to limit my service to a hairstyle for the moment. Oh no, I want to impact, influence and help each customer who will allow me to far beyond that chair! My job is not to "do hair." My job is to serve people who have hair or no hair. In serving those people, I want them to love themselves unconditionally. Taking care of self is an important display of self love. Caring for and styling your hair is one of many ways to do this.

Hair care is as private as all other hygiene routines. It is not about what people think of you and your hair. The will talk anyway. It is about your willingness to open your mind to the alternatives that promote the health and beauty of your hair and image. Your hair is one aspect of your physical appearance. It is not a cure all to the image. It is also a part of the mental, spiritual, cultural you.

Make the time to take the time to get to know you and your hair. 

If you are inspired by the passion fueled by mom's thoughts on hair and you live in the greater Cleveland area, then I invite you, your family, your friends and your children to my very first book signing of my children's book titled "Curly Hair Adventures." I will be at the downtown main branch of the Cleveland Public Library between 2-4 pm on Saturday May 27th, 2017. This event is free to the public. I hope to see you there. Yes children and all are welcomed.

In conclusion, when it comes to you and your hair, mom always said, "Good, better, best. Never let it rest. Until your good is better and your better is best."


"Mmm, talkin' bout Momma. I'll always love my momma...." (in my Intruders singing voice).

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Trends in Hair

Trends in hair care are essential in the world of hair styling and hair care. As a cosmetologist, being on the pulse of what consumers are looking for are very important. In my last blog, I highlighted the top five worst trends in hair care last year. In this blog, I will highlight the importance of discovering your hair and it's texture, style ability, care and it's uniqueness.

The purpose of the previous blog was to inform readers about gimmicks used in the one size fit all approach to hair care. Understand that hair care is unique and different for every head of hair. There is certainly a discovery process in trying different things to learn what will and will not work for your hair. So quite naturally, taking a chance to try out some these hair care antics are par for the course in discovering. However, under no circumstances should no one get to the point of discovery where the health of the hair and scalp is compromised. My goal in hair care, hair styling and blogging is to prevent hair damage and hair loss.This is my passion. 

This year when you research or look up what the trends will be in 2016 for hair styling, your search will come up with: braids/twists extensions, tree braid extensions, straightened hair, short pixie cuts, and wash & wear hair. I doubt very little that there is much difference in hairstyles this year compared to last year. With the change of hair additions going from long, straight and wavy to long braids and twists; adding hair will pretty much be the same. As a matter of fact, hair extensions still trump as the most sought after of all hair styling options. 

As a hair stylist, quite naturally I am not anti hair additions or any hair style that gives one a myriad of creative options wear their hair and express what makes them unique. So, go with the trend or be a daring trend setter. Either way, I'm a happy hair care camper. Just be sure to keep your hair on your head.
I love this look for the trend in 2016!


What concerns me as a hair stylist about hair styling is not so much as the trends. What concerns me is this massive collection of untrained and unskilled people encouraging them to "follow." The follow me, like me, tweet, and give me hearts trend in hair care is scary from my perspective of working behind the chair. Why? For some reason, the follower translates what they are seeing and watching as their own hair. What I see are women who are devastated by the level of damage done to their hair, time and money lost trying out what the see on their phones, pads, computers and other devices. Don't get me wrong, I love looking at pictures that are posted on all the social networks. I also enjoy reviewing videos on YouTube to see what folks are doing and creating with hair. But when following and copying becomes synonymous, like it has in hair care and hair styling, "Houston, we've got problems."

Videos, blogs, periscoping, tutorials and photos main purpose are simply to inspire; not duplicate. Of course I can't watch look at every post and watch every video, but I do find the key words of "inspiration" are lacking. Many creators of these pages, links and videos are leaning towards a "monkey see - monkey do" indirect approach in their efforts to get viewers to buy into their act. Copying what someone does to their hair and trying it out on your hair is risky. In my opinion that is the equivalent of using someone else's toothbrush. Yep. hair care and hair styles like toothbrushes are great. They all have a universal appeal. One can watch videos and go to as many dentists as they like to learn how to properly care for their teeth. Yet, you will not find one dentist or person who will suggest that you use someone else's toothbrush and brush your teeth as they do. As a matter of fact, it is when your dentist customizes your visit that makes your experience more individualized. You get a sense of concern and care when your dentist demonstrates how to care for your teeth and gums and how "this' toothbrush is for your teeth and your teeth only. Imagine if your dentist reached over and took that toothbrush from another person's mouth and said, "here, do it like her" and walked away?
Follow for inspiration. Do not copy.
It is the individual and personal level of instruction and care that must be given to every person from all over the planet who will someday do their own hair that is important. If you are in the spirit of looking, liking, following, reading, listening, and watching things about hair, remember, those are guides. Do not copy it verbatim. 

Instead, read up on your product first. Call or visit the company's social media of the product you want to try. Companies love hearing directly from their consumers. Often times they will send samples or coupons that will give you the opportunity to try before you buy. Also, only buy travel size or travel size kits of the products you want to try. If you make smaller purchases, your closets and cabinets will not end up in a heap of unwanted clutter. Another option is to allow your hairstylist to try things out. This will give you the hands on chance to actually try and get instructions. Most hair stylists will give you pointers in caring for and styling your hair. If not, find a new one.

In addition,cosmetology schools and salon clinics are great places to try things out on your hair. Most cosmetology schools and salon clinics are offering service much cheaper than a hair stylist or regular salon services. Provided the service you want to try out do not require chemicals, you should be safe. Wait, don't turn your nose up to these options. The trade of are the free or deep discounted services and assistance you would receive in the form of a one on one about your hair.What is the worst case scenario? None, because you will not have spent much money and you can simply wash out the unwanted style. Your hair will be in tact. The style can be washed out or un-braided if you really don't like it. Lastly, keep in mind that even the greatest of hair stylists were students first. You would surprised to the many talents inside your local cosmetology schools! When I was in cosmetology school, I was very sought after. I tried many things out under the instruction of my instructors and the the help of my fellow students. The prices were well under 10 bucks.


Carefully follow manufacturers instructions. Resist cookie
 cutting the directions.
With these tips in mind you can continue to follow, like, tweet, and watch without totally compromising your hair or wasting time and money. Remember, no two heads are alike. What you see and watch on a screen rarely results in what you will see in your mirror at home.And that is okay. Be patient, work with your hair in smaller sections, purchase travel sizes, keep your receipts and lastly try a hair stylist or your local beauty school to get the one on one attention your hair needs. 

Hopefully, by the time you read this and try out some of my tips, the only thing you will be following are the directions!